Aries Woman...

The ARIES Woman

"But aren't you going to run and help her?"

Alice asked...

"No use, no use!" said the King. "She runs so fearfully quick

you might as well try to catch a BandersnatchT*

So you're in love with an Aries girl. I don't know whether to congratulate you or
sympathize with you.

When Byron wrote that "Man's love is of man's life a thing apart; 'tis woman's
whole existence," he forgot about j& the Aries woman. She may think love is her
whole existence, but she's too vitally absorbed in the world around her, not to
mention in herself, for it to be the beginning and end of her life. She can get along
without a man easier than any female you'll ever meet.

Of course, getting along without a man is not the same thing as getting along
without romance. She'll always need that hero of her dreams to yearn for in her
heart. He may be long ago and faraway-or hiding just out of sight and touch,
somewhere in tomorrow's mists-but she'll think about him in an April rain. He'll
haunt her when the first snow falls, when she hears a certain song or sees lightning
flash. However, while she's yearning, if there's no male around in actual physical
presence, she won't miss him terribly. Anything he could do, she can do better-she
thinks.

The Aries girl will open her own doors. Shell also put on her own coat, fight her
own battles, pull out her own chair, hail her taxi and light her cigarette without any
masculine help. Doing it herself is, to her, the fastest way to get it done. Naturally,
this doesn't set too well on the vulnerable male ego. The Mars girl is determined to
take the lead, to be the first to move to action, and that includes the action of making
the first advance in romance. Aries females are the most likely of all the Sun signs
to do the proposing, especially if the man is slow about naming the date. And that's
about as early as you can safely show your feelings-when she proposes. Before that
you're taking a chance. Be very careful about moving in on an Aries girl. She wants
to be the leader in the love affair. Better be sure you have her heart safely in your
pocket before you try to grab her around the waist and kiss her goodnight. Other-




wise, she may give you a sharp right hook to the jaw and run like a frightened deer.

Don't be misled. The reason for her running isn't maidenly modesty. She's not afraid
of your passionate intentions. Those she can handle. Her flight is based on the fear
of getting tangled up with a worshiping slave or a lovestruck puppy dog, either one
of whom would bore her to tears. Be casual, keep her guessing, and the chances are
shell chase you into a comer instead. A man who resists her impact always intrigues
an Aries female. She can't understand why she isn't overwhelming him with her
obvious charms. Then her Mars ego will leave no stone unturned to prove she's
desirable, even when she has no lasting interest in him.

Scariett O'Hara is the very epitome of the Mars-ruled

Aries female. Like Scariett, the Aries girl will gather every available male for a
hundred miles around to her feet, while her willful heart yearns for the one man she
can't have for one reason or another. Like Scariett, the Mars woman can quickly
adapt for survival if necessary, without whimpering. Both the O'Hara and the Aries
characters are tough enough to defy convention, face an advancing army, or even
shoot a man through the head with icy calmness, : if he threatens her loved ones.

Never was Scariett more Mars-like than when she was starving, alone and
friendless, and without waiting for a man to come to the rescue, she clenched her
fist toward | heaven and shouted, "I'll survive this . . . and when I do, I'll never be
hungry again ... If I have to lie, cheat, steal i or kill-as God is my witness, I'll never
be hungry again!" | Much later, her emotions shattered, her beloved child dead ] and
the one man she loved about to walk out of her life, | this typical Aries woman was
still able to say, "I'll think of some way to get him back. There's never been a man I
couldn't get, once I set my mind on him. . . . After all, tomorrow is another day."

Yes, Scarlett O'Hara creates a vivid image of the first \ Sun sign of the zodiac, with
all the Mars strength and ability to bounce back after tragedy; able to play the
female role to the hilt, with fluttering lashes and a well-timed tear, but just as able to
take over a man's job when the men aren't around. A careful study of Scarlett's
character can give you an excellent understanding of what you're in for with an
Aries woman-and naturally, also the rewards you can look forward to after you've
been brave enough to claim her. Her aggressive drive may be hard to take, but her
shining optimism and faith in tomorrow can be mighty uplifting.

The Aries girl is rather a pushover for flattery, if it has an honest base. Let her know
you admire her, but don't be too flowery or sugary about it. Her loyalty in love is
gigantic, as long as you keep the sentiment alive, for she is deeply sentimental.
There's the typical Arien contradiction in her: she doesn't want to be obviously
chased, yet she quickly loses interest if you're too detached. She doesn't want a
completely domineering male, but neither will she warm up to a man who sits
adoringly at her feet. Before love can bring her happiness, the Aries woman must
meet the eternal Mars challenge-her strong desire to control the lover, conflicting
with her secret wish to be controlled by him. Unbelievably idealistic, sometimes she




searches in vain for that brave knight in shining armor, who will sweep her off her
feet, conquer the world, hand it to her gently and yet never sacrifice his manhood.
Since he exists only in fairy tales and the myths of King Arthur's court, the Aries
woman often walks alone, without a star to guide her. Her days are bright and full of
excitement, her nights are sometimes dark and full of longing. Yet, when her
defeated dreams become smoldering ashes-just as you think the flame is dying,
Aries leaps up to build another fire.

She must be proud of you to love you. But don't be so important that you neglect to
notice her talents and abilities. Though she'll demand a lot from you, she'll give
double measure in return. The Aries girl can be generous to a fault with her time and
sympathy, cheerfully sharing her possessions and money, but when it comes to love,
she's downright stingy. "What's hers is hers" in the romance department, and it will
take very little to set off a jealous explosion. Don't admire your favorite movie
actress in her hearing, or pay too many compliments to her girl friends. The man
with an Aries wife is safer with a male secretary. If she's not first with you in every
way, you'll soon wonder where all the intense passion and thrilling emotion went so
fast. When the Aries woman has been really hurt, she turns from fire to ice. Her fire
bums hot and dies quickly. Her ice can be eternal. Memorize that, if you care deeply
about her-and it's doubtful that she'll stand for you caring about her any other way.
Aries plays for keeps.

She puts the loved one on a pedestal, expecting him to live up to an impossible
image of perfection, stubbornly refusing to look at his clay feet, until they become
too muddy for even her to miss. Never criticize the lover, husband or children of an
Aries woman unless you're wearing an asbestos suit. She's capable of being
demanding, selfish, and making cutting remarks when you dampen her hopeful
plans. Yet, she can also be gentle, devoted and cooperative when she's met halfway.

Since she prefers the company of men to women, and solicits admiration from every
male she meets, be he nine or ninety, you'll have plenty of chances to feel the stabs
of those little green monsters of jealousy. Forget it. As fiercely possessive as she is
of you, she won't put up with your possessiveness of her for an instant. The Aries
girl insists on complete freedom, before and after marriage. You'll have to trust her
wherever she goes and whatever she does, though she won't have that kind of faith
in you (unless she's learned the hard way to keep her emotions under control if it
kills her, which it almost will). It's not as bad as it sounds, because she'll be faithful,
once she's really yours. An Aries girl is seldom able to love two men at the same
time. She's simply too honest for such deception. Barring unusual circumstances,
she'll let you know clearly that love is dead before going ahead in total commitment
to someone else.

This woman is capable of deep passion and mystical idealism, woven together in
strange patterns. In any relationship she feels is real and forever after, there will be
no holding back, no feminine wiles, coquettish tricks or silly games. Her love, like
her speech and actions, is direct. There's something clean and fresh about the utter
simplicity of her emotions, but even so, they often get her into waters way over her




head. You may have to tame her a little, but she'll accept It with surprising docility
if she really loves you.

Mars females are often career girls. They can handle almost any profession a man
can handle, from stockbroking to real estate. They can also turn a nice ankle or
profile in strictly feminine occupations like modeling and acting. It may be difficult
to get her to give up her job for you, if it's a real career or profession. She may toss
it overboard for a period, while she's suffused with the glow of romance and
picturing a storybook cottage for two beside the sea (typical of the Arien
imagination that leads straight to the happy part and ignores the dull part). But when
the cottage begins to need a paint job, the roof starts to leak and the first fine rapture
dims slightly, she may be anxious to dig out her social security card again. Let her.
She'll be far happier and more loving-even more gentle-if she's allowed to fill her
idle hours with something that interests her. Mars emotions, unfulfilled, can look for
molehills of frustrations to build into huge mountains of trouble.

There's practically nothing this woman won't tackle. If it's a challenge or just
something she thinks she wants to brighten her life, she'll make some kind of a stab
at it whether it's practical or not. I know an Aries woman who was forced for
financial reasons to live for several years in , two rooms with a husband, five active
children and a dog.

That kind of an arrangement can get a little cramped, and just contemplating it
might give a woman with any common sense a few doubts. Not a Mars female. This
one coped somehow, though she may have let it goad her into a few tantrums. In the
middle of the situation, when an astrologer read her natal chart and pointed out that
her planetary aspects showed a long period of great hardship in her life, she was
puzzled and intrigued. "When does it look like it might happen?" she wanted to
know.

This same impulsive Aries woman got a sudden urge one day to add another dog to
the group camping out in two rooms. She felt the family's male pet needed a female
companion. He looked lonesome. Besides, the children thought it was a rollicking
good idea. The discovery that the second dog wasn't housebroken threw her only
temporarily. Like a determined drill sergeant, she assigned every member of the
family their turn at scrubbing the carpet. After she saw that it would never be the
same again, she surveyed the situation and made a decision. To get rid of the second
dog? Of course not. She was secretly hoping there would be puppies someday soon.
The money would just have to come from somewhere to get a new rug. Funny
thing-it did. As for the puppies, she was sure some miracle would happen to move
the entire crowd into a new apartment before the happy event. Funny thing-it did.
Miracles have a way of happening to those who believe in them. Aries women
certainly believe. Sometimes to the point of foolishness. Her rash ways can get her
into some complicated pickles, and she may have a few gray hairs before she leams
how to avoid the same pickle twice. Aries is not noted for learning from experience.
The spirit is willing, but the disposition is headstrong. There's no use to try to
caution a typical Aries female with the biblical warning, "Pride goeth before a fall."




Her interpretation of the phrase, since she first heard it in Sunday School, is "When
your pride goes, you fall."

Never worry that your Aries girl will succumb to the charms of a wolf. She's
immune to wolves and playboys, and in far more danger of being seduced by an
idealist with a cause, preferably a lost cause. But even with him, she'll assert her
individuality frequently. It will never be completely conquered in the Mars woman,
though it can be subdued by the right man. She'll buy you gifts, loan you money,
nurse you through illness, and help you get a job.

And she'll expect the same from you.

She'll deny it vehemently (she does almost everything vehemently), but when she's
miserable, you should be miserable. When she's happy, you should be happy. To
Aries, love is equal sharing. She'll expect to share your razor, your bank account,
your friendships and your dreams. In return, you can share hers. Of course, her razor
may be broken, her bank account a little overdrawn, her friendships slightly
scattered and her dreams too large for you to swallow. But she's not selfish with
them. Keeping a secret from her can drive her wild, and it's not a good idea to drive
an Aries wild. Don't ever embarrass her by your grammar, clothing or behavior in
public. She won't embarrass you, at least not in these matters.

To injure her pride or dampen her enthusiasm will almost break her heart. Others
will constantly be doing just that to her. The world resents a female who talks back
to it, and who thinks she's smarter than everyone else. When she discovers she
really doesn't run the universe after all, she'll come running into your arms in tears,
her world all dark and dismal. Then you'll have a chance to see her as she really is,
defenseless and vulnerable in the extreme, for all her outer confidence. She's not
really Tugboat Annie. She'd just like to be. She admires strength and tries to imitate
it. The Aries idealism and optimistic faith in human nature is often dashed to bits by
reality. Comfort her with tenderness at these times, and you'll probably never lose
her. Always defend her against her enemies. She can never forgive you if you fail to
fight for her or take her side. (But be prepared to make up with them when she does,
which may be quickly.) At least she's layabout it. She'll also defend you. An Aries
woman will throw away fame or fortune defiantly right in the face of anyone who
hurts a friend of hers. If she loves you, her indignation will have no bounds. These
women are nothing if not loyal.

As a wife, she may be quite a handful. There will probably be outside interests,
because home will seldom be enough for her creative energies. Don't expect her to
be a happy little cricket, chirping away contentedly by the hearth. She'll be a
competent enough cook, and she'll keep the house spanking clean-at least the part
that shows. She'll sew on buttons and iron shirts, too, but she won’t like it. Still,
she'll do it when it's necessary. (An Aries 'oman can do almost anything when it's
necessary.) Her re is more like that of a glittering diamond than like the ?arm,
comforting glow of the fireplace. There's undeniably brittle side to her nature, and
she may agitate you more ften that she soothes you. But she's exciting and certainly




ever boring. Then there are always those moments of oftness that belie her strong
drive-for a man who has tie patience to bring them out. Mars women are always
ofter inside than any but those who have been really close 3 them ever know. Her
conversation will be very intelli-;ent and very frequent. Don't hide behind the
newspaper .t breakfast. She'll expect companionship from you, or you .an just
scramble your own eggs.

You'll rarely find her complaining of illness or fatigue. iut when she's in pain, she'll
expect tons of sympathy. Mthough you may have to sit on her to get her to go to >ed
when she has a raging fever, be prepared to wait on icr hand and foot when she has
a toothache.

This is not the woman to call and tell you'll be working ate at the office, unless you
enjoy creating Fourth of July ireworks in the middle of February. She won't mind
keep-ng the gravy hot, but she won't like not knowing where /ou really are, and
what you're really doing, and she may ;all back to find out. The Aries wife will
probably make an ixcellent impression on your boss, if you can keep her from
:elling him how to run his business. She won't mind going :>ut to bring home the
bacon when you're temporarily out ~>t a job, but she can never respect a man who
makes less money than she does (though an Aries woman would never leave a man
for this reason-she'd be more inclined to make excuses for him). If she has a rare
spell of letting herself go, the first word of disapproval from you will send her
flying back to the mirror and perfume bottle. (In this way, she's as feminine as Eve
herself.) A flattering comment about your secretary's new hair style will do the same
thing, but it's more dangerous. Besides, you were warned to hire a male secretary.
There's a vain streak in a Mars woman which makes her sensitive about everything
from her age to an innocent remark about how tired she looks, which she may take
as a hint that you think she looks like an old hag.

Keep the passion and romance alive in your marriage, or she'll be miserably
unhappy. Aries will waste little time changing any situation which causes
unhappiness, and that can lead to a hasty separation or an impulsive divorce. In
most cases, letting her handle the family checkbook would be unwise, but you can
try it, if the bank is game.

As a mother, she'll see that the baby is clean, happy, healthy and loved. She
probably won't pick him up every time he cries, fuss over him or over^protect him.
But her children will get lots of warm, impulsive kisses and bear hugs. An April
mother will teach her youngsters to believe in leprechauns. She'll take them for
walks in the park, and point out the sparkling necklaces left on the lawn by the
fairies when they danced under the moon where others might see only the early
morning dew on the grass. Aries women create a magic world of fantasy for their
children. It's where they live themseves. She won't be a permissive parent, she'll
insist on strict discipline, and will probably be very fortunate in raising her offspring
to be independent adults. Her favorite weapons of child psychology are: a wooden
paddle, bedtime stories and goodnight kisses.




This woman can be unreasonably temperamental, and create some violent scenes.
But her quickly aroused temper will splatter like summer hailstones and soon melt
away. She'll never hold a grudge, seek revenge, indulge in self-pity or bitterness.
After an emotional storm, her optimistic, April nature will return like the rainbow
suddenly appearing after a shower. Lots of people will tell you an Aries woman is
completely masculine, but don't you believe them. She's all woman underneath her
flashing, forceful exterior, perhaps too much woman for the average man. But, of
course, a knight in shining armor isn't an average man. Are there any lonely,
courageous knights out there? This is the fair lady of your dreams, worth all the
dragons you'll have to slay to win her.

Don't forget that she bruises easily, in spite of her bright, brave smile. (That's just
her shield against hurt.) If you can turn the ram into a lamb, you'll have a woman
who is honest and passionate, loyal and exciting-though she may be a little
impulsive, bossy and independent. Well, you can't have everything, you know. The
Aries girl will help you find your lost illusions and she'll have a fierce faith in all
your dreams. You don't have any? Borrow some of hers. She has plenty to spare. If
you believe in her just hall as much as she believes in you, you could make some
miracles together.