The GEMINI Man....

The GEMINI Man

"I could tell you my adventures- beginning from this morning-"

"At least I knew who I was when I got up this morning, but I think I must have been
changed several times since then."

Being in love gives you a nice sense of warm security. There's that heavenly
comfort of always knowing someone. is going to be there when you need him-that
you no longer walk alone. All the doubts you knew before just melt away. That is,
unless you're having a romance with a Mercury man, which might take the edge off
that "warm security." In fact, you'll adjust much better to a Gemini if you send him
out for a loaf of bread on Monday and don't expect him back until Thursday. Never
look for him until you see him coming-and don't hang onto his coat-tails when he
wants to leave.

Once you've schooled yourself to accept his restless, unpredictable spirit, there's a
good chance of making it work. But not if you're going to insist on "that heavenly
conafort of always knowing someone is going to be there." Yom'll probably never
know for sure when this man is going to be anywhere, and that can bring back some
of those doubts romance is supposed to melt away. It's true that when you're in love
with a Gemini, you won't walk alome. You most certainly won't. You'll have at least
two people to walk with you-and both of them will be him. He was born under the
sign of the twins, you know. In his case, they're never identical twins. The dual
nature of Germini combines two completely different personalities. Yom might
even be involved with one of those Mercury mem who are triplets or quintuplets,
and if so, you have quilte a crowd to keep you company, even. when you're alone
with him.

The typical Gemini is the favorite of every hostess. He likes people. The more the
merrier. It's a rare Geminian who's not a perfectly delightful conversationalist. He
has exquisite taste, he's loaded with witty remarks, and his compliments are
masterpieces of warm sincerity. Usually a master of impeccable manners and social
adroitness, he keeps the party moving in more ways than one.

You know those scavenger hunts, where people pair off with a list of whacky items
to collect, like a hair from the head of a famous movie star and a piece of the blotter
on the desk of the chief of police, and the couple which has rounded up the most
items on the list gets the prize? It's the Gemini's favorite kind of party, because it
combines the highest possible exposure to people of all kinds with the highest




possible opportunity to move around from place to place-and he seeks both.

If you meet him first at a social affair where he's performing his fascinating multiple
personality act, you haven't a chance. You'll be convinced he's the most exciting,
interesting, intelligent man you've ever come across. No one could quarrel with that
analysis. He probably is. It's no wonder you're excited and impressed. But before
you let him change your name, be sure you're capable of 'tackling an uncertain
future with a man whose whims may change with the wind, and whose goals in life
may shift drastically before the honeymoon is even over. Geminian Walt Whitman
once wrote the lines: "Do I contradict myself? ... I contain multitudes." Whether he
realized it or not, he was summing up the Mercury nature.

One day your Gemini man may call on you with a chattering monkey perched on his
shoulder and suggest going to a flea circus. He'll bring you flowers, perfume, a
phonograph record or a couple of books, maybe even one he wrote himself. The
hours will speed by as you happily sun yourself in his cheerful disposition, laugh at
his bright, ;lever jokes and melt under his gay, gallant charm. He'll ay "I love you,"
a hundred different ways, like no one ilse in the world could do.

The next day, he'll phone you and break a date for no iarthly reason whatsoever,
causing you to imagine all sorts of things. Was he only joking about loving you? Is
he ' ;eing someone else? Is he in trouble? Your fears may be "ue. Then again, they
may be false. A week later, he'll sappear, full of sarcastic remarks, moody and
irritable.

He'll be impatient, critical and petulant. He may criticize your shoes, your lipstick or
your literary taste, and have some pretty cutting doubts about the possibility of your
happiness together. Either all this, or he'll be sullen and troubled, his mind far away,
distant and aloof. No use asking why, you won't get an answer that makes any
sense.

If you survive that experience, a few more days will find you visiting an art gallery,
theater, museum, library or opera with your Gemini man, absolutely hypnotized by
his knowledge and wide interests. Hell be unusually tender, full of fragile, butterfly
dreams and imaginative hopes for tomorrow. Then he'll propose. Like that. Quick as
lightning. You'll forget all the thunder and storm clouds, all the rain that fell before,
say "yes," before he changes his mind-and there you are-engaged to an enigma.

Yes, I said enigma. If you expect anything else, like a man who's stable and patient,
who will gently play Darby to your Joan while life and love glide on as smoothly as
a gondola down a romantic canal in Venice, you're headed in the same direction as a
merry-go-round. In circles. Get off fast and never mind about grabbing the brass
ring. Don't let the gay, light-hearted music seduce you into following a painted
scene of constantly changing colors, with shades of dreary gray as likely to show up
as sunny yellow or blissful blue. If you're an incurable romantic, seeking perfect
harmony, you're in more than a little danger.




No matter what the rest of his natal chart says, if the Sun was in Gemini when he
was born, this man will not remain tomorrow what he is today, nor will he have any
lasting memory of yesterday. In one way or another, he will change. Granted, the
changes may always be for the better and he may.consistently aim higher. But the
element of chance is always there. If you're a gambler, you may very well hit the
jackpot with him, and find a glorious mental and emotional compatibility to
celebrate on your golden wedding anniversary. But all good gamblers know the
odds before they place their bet. Just be sure you do. Two rare exceptions to
Geminian instability of purpose seem to be President Kennedy and England's Queen
Victoria. However, keep in mind that John Kennedy had, at all times a multitude of
interests, which changed constantly, and Queen Victoria (who was very close to
being a Taurus by planetary position) brought about a great many important changes
in her country's customs. Anyway, very few of us marry kings, queens or presidents,
who have been forced by circumstances to mature and Settle into a set pattern.

An excellent example of Geminian duality of expression is the confession of a
woman who was exposed to it. The Mercury-ruled man was a producer, and the
woman was a famous, dark-haired Pisces actress. After a weekend party with
friends as the guest of the Gemini on his boat, during which he was openly
insulting, rude and aloof to her, by turns, the actress was dismayed and puzzled.
Later, she made the remark, "I don't know what's wrong with him. He must hate me.
I've never done anything to him, yet he hardly spoke a word to me all weekend."
Ah, but don't you see, she had done something to him. She had made him fall in
love with her. The emotion was serious enough for him to marry her soon after the
incident. But how did he react to his first knowledge of a feeling of tenderness
toward her? As though she were Lucretia Borgia.

Her experience probably won't keep you from leaping into a romance with a
Mercury man. Still, it might soothe the wounds of a few of you girls who have been
suffering from the cold actions of a Gemini who's probably helplessly in love with
you and cleverly concealing it for his own, unfathomable reasons. Geminis have an
unconscious urge to disguise their true intent, to fence with others verbally and
cloak their motives with dual actions. In general, they seek to confuse you. Then
with true Geminian inconsistency, they'll turn right around and be so direct, they'll
fairly take your breath away with their frankness and bluntness.

Loving a Gemini is easy and fun, if you don't try to get too close. There's a inner
core that belongs only to him, that he'll never share with another human being, even
you. Keep things cool and light, and don't be overly passionate or dramatic. Don't
bore him, always excite him and your Gemini romance can be very special. Don't
rebel against his changeability. Change with him. Be as alert and interested in life as
he is. Otherwise, the love affair could become just one of those things. He seeks a
mental companion above all else. One who can match his wits, even top him now
and then, because he's not an egotist. He's a realist, and he thrives on mental
challenge. The last thing he wants is a doormat or a dull mouse. Let your brain show
through, your feminine image. It won't scare him off, as it might some men. It will




spin him around in the right direction-toward you.

Geminis tend to discard old friends for new ones, but not because they're heartless.
Their own personalities fluctuate and advance so relentlessly, it's only natural for
them to seek those who match their interests at the time. Anywhere Gemini hangs
his hat is home. There's seldom any deep, lasting attachment to old memories,
places, people and things. During a long period of loneliness, he can shed some
sentimental tears, but it's the loneliness that does it, rather than nostalgia for
yesterday. He's gregarious, and he hates-even fears-being alone for extended
periods. If you can hit him with the message that you'll be a partner who will always
be around, but who won't lean on him nor expect him to lean on you, he'll probably
consider signing a long-term contract. But remember those odds. Many Geminis
marry more than once, although multiple marriage is more likely to occur when they
wed too young than if they wait for maturity. Not every Gemini has two wives, but
he'll have two of almost everything else-perhaps two cars, two apartments, two
college degrees, two jobs, two dreams, two pets, two razors, two hobbies, two
ambitions. He likes to double up.

My good Gemini friend Frank Blair, NBC newsman on the "Today" show, even
takes his annual vacation at two separate times during the year. His hobbies? He
pilots his own private plane, sails his own boat and plays a mean. game of golf. (I'm
not sure, but I think Frank may be one of the triplet Geminis.) He plays two musical
instruments, has multiple children, multiple awards and trophies on his office wall
at NBC, multiple friends, two shifts at the network (one for the "Today" program,
another for recording "Emphasis" and special shows), two electric razors in his desk
and at least a dozen dreams and plans at a time, which change about every six
months. He has just one wife. (He must have a Cancer or Taurus ascendant.) You'll
note that he's also in a typically Gemini occupation-broadcasting. Mercury rules
communication and news. He certainly has the Gemini charm and manual dexterity.
Frank often pours a glass of tomato juice, dictates to his secretary, phones his wife,
shaves, and packs his brief case-somehow all at once. Geminis are experts at sleight
of hand.

In financial matters, the duality takes over again. A Mercury man may be at first
fabulously generous, then abruptly turn miserly. If you average out his twin
attitudes, my guess is that the generosity would win, hands down. Gemini has little
desire to accumulate either money or knowledge. In each case, he prefers to absorb
it, sort it, and give it back improved. He's the communicator whose function is to
create ever new, original ideas and serve others through the versatility of his quick,
brilliant mental processes.

Will he be faithful to you? In his fashion, yes, he will. There are a thousand answers
to that question where Mercury is concerned. He likes to converse and he likes to
mix. He's also strangely attractive to women, so there may be occasions for
whispers and suspicions. But you can count on this: It's a rare Gemini man whose
deeply ingrained sense of fairness will let him be dishonest in his actions if you
have faith in him. I mean real faith and real trust. Not the kind that secretly wonders.




He'll always be able to sense if you secretly wonder. Mercury minds often intercept
your private thoughts as though you were broadcasting them. However, it's not a
good idea to expect a Gemini husband to give all females a cold shoulder just
because he wears a wedding band. Females are part of the scene, and Gemini must
make the scene. If they're around, he'll talk to them-maybe even laugh with them or
have a drink with them. It's only natural for Mercury to communicate, regardless of
the sex of the listener. But that doesn't mean he has to romance them.

It's true that there are lots of Geminians who are just plain, outright promiscuous,
yet no matter what you've heard, there's always a cause. To be mistrusted or mis-
understood in any area deeply distresses a Mercury man. It frustrates and depresses
him, and such an unhappy Gemini can fly here and there, seeking relief from
tangled emotions. When he's free from a feeling of mental isolation, and has nothing
to prove to anyone, he loses the compulsion to experiment and take flights of fancy.
A woman who has perfect mental harmony with a Gemini need never fear
emotional or physical unfaithfulness. That's so true of these men, it's almost a cut
and dried rule. But he won't be chained unreasonably. To expect your Gemini not to
smile back when someone smiles at him, whether it's a child or an adult, a man or a
woman, is to expect the sun not to shine. His cheerful, friendly nature seeks
companionship constantly. It could be the conductor on the commuter train or the
waitress at the coffee shop around the comer from where he works. Don't try to
stifle him. When anyone tries to confine the Gemini's spirit, he can become as
elusive and as unpredictable as the wind itself.

With the youngsters, hell be a buddy, but not a disciplinarian, and he'll teach them a
lot before they even get to kindergarten. They'll probably love to confide in him,
because he'll seldom be shocked or harsh in his judgment. He knows how to love
without smothering. The relationship between the Gemini and his children is usually
very close, but perhaps a bit loose, even though that may sound contradictory. As
affectionate, exciting and lively as he is with young people, he may fail to insist that
they follow routines, since he dislikes routines so much himself. There's also a
tendency to criticize their behavior one day and approve of it the next day, which
can confuse them. Although hell manage a good lecture, you'd better expect the
spankings and really serious discipline to fall in your department. Gemini fathers
tend to spoil their children.

His imagination may run away with him, and cause him to make an occasional
statement he can't back up. You'll have to make him see the importance of keeping
his word. Regardless of all his good intentions, a few of his quick impulsive
promises may be broken. If the children don't tie him down in any way, or keep him
from his multiple activities, he'll enjoy them enormously. One word of warning:
Although he will seldom punish the children physically, the Gemini proclivity for
sudden, stinging, sarcastic speech may cause deep wounds in little hearts or create

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hurt which can be remembered for a lifetime. There may also be a reluctance to
show affection in the form of kisses and hugs, unless a conscious effort is made to
overcome the natural Geminian coolness. Yet, I've known some Gemini parents
who seem to give the warmth they can't release to ^adults in abundance to their




children. See that the youngsters don't confine him needlessly, don't ask him to
babysit unless he obviously wants to, and he'll take to fatherhood nicely, with one
child or a dozen.

Jealousy is something you may never have to worry about with a Gemini husband,
because possessiveness is not a typical Gemini trait. If suspicion occasionally
whispers in his ear, he'll usually brush it away (unless an affliction in the natal chart
indicates otherwise). Some degree of jealousy is natural in everyone, of course, but
it's normally not exaggerated in a Gemini. Love is not a strictly physical relationship
with this man. He hears more, sees more and feels more through his senses than
others do, and Mercury helps him record the most delicate impressions vividly. His
love has such an airy, elusive quality, it may seem to lack the earthy passion of
other Sun signs. But if you're not seeking a wild cave man who will drag you into
the woods by the hair, he should be a more than satisfactory lover. He'll speak of his
emotions with romantic, imaginative phrases, and fill the hunger of your heart with
the strange beauty of his idealism.

Remember that the typical emotional coldness of Mercury can be warmed
considerably if you both hear the same music and dream the same dreams. He must
experience a total blending of the mind and the spirit before the physical passions
catch up in intensity. That may seem oblique, but it's the only real road to his heart.

You'll have to get used to the word "if." He'll say, "If I loved you, we could . . ." and
"If I loved you, there might be . . ." and sometimes never finish the sentence. You
may have to listen with your heart and finish it for him. Blot out the word "if." He
only uses it as a smoke screen or as a safety precaution. Harsh, critical nagging and
continual emotional scenes will surely dull the edge of the fine, sensitive Gemini
love. Try to squeeze a puddle of mercury in your hand. What happens? It dissolves
immediately into hundreds of sparkling silver balls that quickly escape through your
tightly clenched fingers. One Gemini man whose wife thought she knew him very
well wrote the following lines just before he left her, and she found them among his
papers after the divorce:

"Into the dream you came

And across the soft carpet of my reverie you walked

With hobnail boots ..."

You'll often read or hear it said that Geminis must always have two loves at once.
This Gemini duality, hinting at deception, is so frequently mentioned, it may cause
unfounded anxiety. May I modify that description? A Gemini needs two loves. Not
necessarily two women. That's a riddle. If you truly understand him, youll know the
answer to it.